I’m a British citizen, so, if I were to refuse to engage with any entities that did such things I’d… not get very far
I have been, sometimes, a ‘social media manger/professional’, so, while I’m a bit conflicted with that work, a bit of advice might look like:
Only bother if you like it. If you can find some sense of interest or community, or if you genuinely enjoy (not all the time, like, but at least sometimes) putting your stuff out there, then do your thing. Find ways to use the platform that you enjoy.
If you don’t enjoy, you’ll either not bother, or you’ll find it a chore and resent it, and that’ll show. There’s enough social media accounts out there of people who think ‘I suppose I should…’ and post three times a month with some half-arsed comment. (I hope I never again have to deal with the account of a window frame company with a weekly ‘New frames looking great in store’ post…)
Really, a ‘might as well’ account comes off worse than no account at all, so, if you need it, this is ‘official professional’ permission not to bother
If you want to have a go at it, spend some time lurking. Get to know the place - twitter, facebook, insta, tiktok, all have different formats and different cultures (and subcultures). Spend time finding accounts you like and, yes, hashtags you like.
To use the overly-naive metaphor of a conversation, consider it like hanging out listening to a conversation friends/acquaintances are having. See what they’re going on about, see what everyone’s got to say. If there’s something you want to add, join in, if not listen and nod politely.
After a few weeks of that, you should come to a farily solid assessment of ‘is this a conversation I want to be a part of?’ (Ugh I’m sorry I know I know. But my clients love this kind of talk ) If it is, you should have a bit of a feel for how you might take part, how what you want to add might fit in, etc. Or you might decide to excuse yourself and go drink alone in a corner
If you decide you still want to participate… From what you’ve said, it seems that it’s best to disillusion yourself of the idea of competing with, or playing the game like, the ‘big guys’. ‘Proper’ social media accounts are either run by someone who’s made their content their job, or by paid professionals. I’m guessing you don’t have the time to do the first, or the money to do the second.
This doesn’t mean your shit can’t be good, or popular, but it does mean you’re going to need it to be a long, organic effort. Posting stuff you enjoy posting (stuff you’d like to see), judicious use of hashtags (sorry, but you gotta), liking and commenting on posts you genuinely want to like and/or comment on. Etc.
Things like ‘follow everyone you want to see you’ and other spammy stuff, just doesn’t work. Even the middle-tier accounts are inundated with people doing the same thing. They’re not going to bother to engage unless there’s some other communication (usually, money) taking place.
It may be worth thinking about how you could engage creatively within the limits of the platform. There are people playing with the video length limit and making ‘microtracks’. Others are working on visually-appealing videos. This kind of thing will keep you engaged with posting, and may make you stand out. It’s extra effort tho.
But to repeat, if you’re doing it out of a sense of obligation, don’t. If you’re doing it ‘for the money’, know that you’re going to have to put in a lot more time and possibly money than it seems you want to.
If you can take part in a way that is fun and sustainable for you, go for it.
And, it’s totally fine if you don’t want to. These places are 90% shitholes, breeding grounds for mental ill-health, and quite possibly the destruction of our societies. Working in these platforms has paid for my synths, but I no longer have a Facebook account, am close to deleting my twitter account, and my insta is locked down.
These companies make billions convincing companies and individuals that secret fortunes lie there, and that they’re great places for the ‘self-made’, but they’re increasingly saturated and it’s more and more the case that the ‘old ways’ (press releases, chats with journos/publications, going to the labels, building up a personal fan base, etc) are more effective and sustainable. Don’t believe the hype.